Before you have children what did you do? Well for me it wasn't much. I knew at a very young age that all I wanted was to be a mom so I never went to post secondary school to further my education and pursue a career. I knew I didn't want to do this because then what would I do when I did have kids. For me and my beliefs I wouldn't be able to have my career and raise my children. In the future I may go back to school for something that I love to do but for now my life is all about my children.
I started to realize that everything I do is all about them and for them. Before I had kids I could do anything I wanted at any time. I didn't have any one to worry about but myself. But even in those days I didn't do everything I wanted because I knew something was missing. Now that I have kids my whole day is surrounded by their schedule. We have a routine and right now it works for all of us. Every day is pretty much the same. In the morning we get up and have breakfast, then the kids play while I have my coffee and play a few games on the computer. Then we go upstairs and I have my shower and get ready for the day and then I get the kids ready. After we come downstairs and sometimes there is more time to play but sometimes we just eat lunch and then they go down for their naps. During their naps is my downtime. I usually wait until they are in bed to eat because it is more peaceful. I usually watch TV while I eat. After I'm done eating and done watching TV I wait. I wait until the kids get up. This is when I started to realize that my whole life revolves around them. I dont try to occupy my time, I just wait. I don't know why I sit and wait, I could find something to do that I enjoy doing but I don't. As soon as Dalyce wakes up, I go and get her and both of us get so excited to see each other.
I spend time trying to teach them new things and to give them all the potential to be the best that they can be in life. I think of things that they need in order to grow. I think of things that they could use in order to learn. I think of their future and what I could do to help them. I think of Austins preschool and teams that I could put him in. I think of Dalyce and what she could do in a few years.
I work in order to pay for the things that they need and want. I work to provide for them (However I couldn't get by without my loving husband). I make sure that they have enough food, a roof over their head, and clothes on their back (which sometimes is too many clothes). I work to provide things that they don't need but want but don't know it yet.
I could've not had kids. I could've just decided not to do any of these things. I wonder sometimes what my life would be like. I wonder if I would've travelled. I could've gone so many places and done so many things. I decided to have kids and to be a mom and to have a family. Nothing compares to a childs laugh or smile, a new word or trick that they've learned. I could've travelled the world and seen things and done things but then I wouldn't have the joys in my life that I do. I forget what its like to have nothing to worry about but yourself but to me thats the best thing in the world. I love my children with all my heart and I hope they will be wonderful people. I think sometimes that is why I am so hard on them without knowing it. I am a wonderful mom because I am providing for them exactly what they need, not only material things but the love that they need in their hearts. If I didn't say it every day (which I do because it is important for them to hear it) they would know that I love them. And one day, when they have children of their own, they will realize everything that I have done and will do for them just like I have my own parents. They are the most important things in my life no matter what and I will do everything in this world to protect them. Even the unborn!
Friday, March 18, 2011
Friday, March 11, 2011
Potty Training...
Austin is (Hopefully) finally potty trained.
Potty training is one of (so far) the most frustrating things to have to do with raising children, well my child anyways. I have been trying to potty train Austin for almost a year, on and off, now. I have tried everything from leaving him naked running around the house to asking him every 20 minutes if he has to go potty to now where I just quite cold turkey and he is not allowed to wear diapers anymore (not even pull ups) except at night time only. It took a lot out of me over the past few months trying to figure out why he wouldn't use the potty. I didn't understand why he was being so difficult and I came to every conclusion possible. I finally figured it out! I think that what I did would not work with every child, just mine (well maybe others). I think that my stuborn side rubbed off on him and he was ttrying to see how far he could push me! Well he pushed me to figure out how to potty train him once and for all.
Last fall (I believe) when Austin was just about 3 I decided to try to actively start potty training him. I started out by leaving him naked around the house. It started to work for the first few days. He never peed on the floor and always went to the potty when he had to go. I would put him in a pull up when we went somewhere and at nap time. He still wore diapers at bed time. For a couple of weeks I thought it was working. Going to the store he would sometimes ask to go to the potty and sometimes he wouldn't. At nap time he would not ask to go to the potty ever and he would always wake up with a dirty diaper. I figured that maybe that was ok and at least during his awake time he was going (sometimes). And then one day everything went backwards...He peed on the floor. I thought it would happen just the once and then it kept happening, so we went back to full time diapers.
A few months went by and we tried again. Sometimes I would put him in underwear, sometimes I would leave him in a diaper and sometimes I would leave him naked. Nothing seemed to be fully working. It would only seem to work when we were at home. At that point I kind of gave up on the whole thing even though I knew Austin was smart and he knew when he had to go pee and poop.
I started getting super annoyed with changing austins bum and asked him why he can't just go in the potty. He would always say he didn't want to. So I came to the conclusion that he was just lazy.
During being pregnant every once in a while you have a melt down. Well I had one of those a couple weeks ago about Austin. About him not being potty trained, never listening to me and just being a 3 year old boy. So I searched on the internet hoping for some answers and help. Well I found it, with some of my own ideas combined.
I decided to make Austin quite diapers cold turkey. The website I read this on made a lot of sense in that if you keep going back and forth between not wearing diapers and wearing them it confuses them and they dont want to learn. Well with Austin, he knew what he was supposed to do he just didn't want to. So I told him no more diapers except at bed time, even naps were no diapers. He wasn't happy with this but he did it. There were two times where I wasn't sure what to do but apparently what I did I was right. Once he was sent to his room for doing something bad and he decided to pee his pants. I knew that he had done this on purpose so I made him stay in his peed in pants. That was his punishment for not telling me he had to go pee, he had to stay in his wet pants. Now I only made him stay in them for about 10 minutes. The other time he peed in his pants during his nap. Now he was still awake and he did it on purpose because he wanted out of his bed. Well little did he know I made him stay in his wet pants and made him have a nap. I know that you are all thinking that I am cruel for doing this, but it worked. He hasn't done that since and he has told me if he has to go. He is smart and knows that I can hear him when he is in bed (yes I still have a monitor in his room and his door has a child thing on it because he comes out of his room all the time unless the door thing is on and he can't get out). He hasn't had an accident since last Sunday (which that accident was on purpose) and last saturday we spent almost the entire day at a friends house and peed in their potty 3 times without me asking if he had to go, he just went!! I am so happy about his progress and I firmly believe I could take him any where and he would not have an accident! I am so proud of both of us for sticking to it. I may have made some mistakes along the way but that is part of being a parent. Now onto other things, potty training Dalyce, she is eager to learn and nighttime training with Austin, Oh and having another baby!!!
Potty training is one of (so far) the most frustrating things to have to do with raising children, well my child anyways. I have been trying to potty train Austin for almost a year, on and off, now. I have tried everything from leaving him naked running around the house to asking him every 20 minutes if he has to go potty to now where I just quite cold turkey and he is not allowed to wear diapers anymore (not even pull ups) except at night time only. It took a lot out of me over the past few months trying to figure out why he wouldn't use the potty. I didn't understand why he was being so difficult and I came to every conclusion possible. I finally figured it out! I think that what I did would not work with every child, just mine (well maybe others). I think that my stuborn side rubbed off on him and he was ttrying to see how far he could push me! Well he pushed me to figure out how to potty train him once and for all.
Last fall (I believe) when Austin was just about 3 I decided to try to actively start potty training him. I started out by leaving him naked around the house. It started to work for the first few days. He never peed on the floor and always went to the potty when he had to go. I would put him in a pull up when we went somewhere and at nap time. He still wore diapers at bed time. For a couple of weeks I thought it was working. Going to the store he would sometimes ask to go to the potty and sometimes he wouldn't. At nap time he would not ask to go to the potty ever and he would always wake up with a dirty diaper. I figured that maybe that was ok and at least during his awake time he was going (sometimes). And then one day everything went backwards...He peed on the floor. I thought it would happen just the once and then it kept happening, so we went back to full time diapers.
A few months went by and we tried again. Sometimes I would put him in underwear, sometimes I would leave him in a diaper and sometimes I would leave him naked. Nothing seemed to be fully working. It would only seem to work when we were at home. At that point I kind of gave up on the whole thing even though I knew Austin was smart and he knew when he had to go pee and poop.
I started getting super annoyed with changing austins bum and asked him why he can't just go in the potty. He would always say he didn't want to. So I came to the conclusion that he was just lazy.
During being pregnant every once in a while you have a melt down. Well I had one of those a couple weeks ago about Austin. About him not being potty trained, never listening to me and just being a 3 year old boy. So I searched on the internet hoping for some answers and help. Well I found it, with some of my own ideas combined.
I decided to make Austin quite diapers cold turkey. The website I read this on made a lot of sense in that if you keep going back and forth between not wearing diapers and wearing them it confuses them and they dont want to learn. Well with Austin, he knew what he was supposed to do he just didn't want to. So I told him no more diapers except at bed time, even naps were no diapers. He wasn't happy with this but he did it. There were two times where I wasn't sure what to do but apparently what I did I was right. Once he was sent to his room for doing something bad and he decided to pee his pants. I knew that he had done this on purpose so I made him stay in his peed in pants. That was his punishment for not telling me he had to go pee, he had to stay in his wet pants. Now I only made him stay in them for about 10 minutes. The other time he peed in his pants during his nap. Now he was still awake and he did it on purpose because he wanted out of his bed. Well little did he know I made him stay in his wet pants and made him have a nap. I know that you are all thinking that I am cruel for doing this, but it worked. He hasn't done that since and he has told me if he has to go. He is smart and knows that I can hear him when he is in bed (yes I still have a monitor in his room and his door has a child thing on it because he comes out of his room all the time unless the door thing is on and he can't get out). He hasn't had an accident since last Sunday (which that accident was on purpose) and last saturday we spent almost the entire day at a friends house and peed in their potty 3 times without me asking if he had to go, he just went!! I am so happy about his progress and I firmly believe I could take him any where and he would not have an accident! I am so proud of both of us for sticking to it. I may have made some mistakes along the way but that is part of being a parent. Now onto other things, potty training Dalyce, she is eager to learn and nighttime training with Austin, Oh and having another baby!!!
Friday, January 28, 2011
Embrace Life
So you are sitting there one day thinking that everything in your life is absolutely perfect. Perfect husband, perfect kids, perfect house, everything in your life is everything you dreamed of, and then it comes crashing down on you. In just a few seconds, a few words are said to you that might change your life forever. Overwhelming information to get by yourself. A million thoughts start running through my head and I can't help but wonder, What did I do wrong? You try to tell yourself that it doesn't matter. That it is just another bump in the road that you can get through it with love and support. Still, it's very scary all the same and you have no idea what to do. It is what you were given. Take it, accept it, embrace it. However hard it might be.
Friday, January 7, 2011
Only 4 months away!
Well baby #3's due date is fast approaching. Only 4 short months away. However I think it will be only just over 3 months away, but that is my opinion! I said to Grant yesterday I don't know how much longer I can take being pregnant. My body I think is telling me that it is not a factory! But only 4 months. It seems like 4 months ago seems so far away but thats only because a lot has happened. Grant pointed out that 4 months ago we were out camping for the last time that summer. That does seem like a long time ago but the next 4 months I think will fly by. There's not a lot thats going to happen between now and then besides Grant going to school. In 4 months I would love to have bought a bunk bed for Austin and Dalyce and have them sleeping in the same room. I don't think this is going to happen though. The Bunk bed might be bought but the kids won't be sleeping in the same room. Dalyce won't be quite old enough to sleep in a regular bed and getting them to sleep in the same room I think is going to be a disaster!
I have an ultrasound again on the 13th. We still don't know what we are having and I don't know if we'll find out. We still have quite a bit of time to request to know! We are having a tough time deciding on names (once again). Anyone have any great suggestions?
I have an ultrasound again on the 13th. We still don't know what we are having and I don't know if we'll find out. We still have quite a bit of time to request to know! We are having a tough time deciding on names (once again). Anyone have any great suggestions?
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Life's journey!
A year has gone by and so much has happened. The family picture on this blog was taken about a year ago and soon we will have to replace it with a new family picture of the 5 of us!! Wow did I just say the 5 of us!! It seems like just yesterday I was apart of just a family of five...me being the youngest. Now I am going to be the mom of a family of five! Our once little family of five has grown into a family of 8 adults and 5 soon to be 6 grandbabies! Our little family of 5 grew into a family of 14 in just a few short years.
So much to think about with life being too short and kids growing too fast. It was just yesterday that I found out I was pregnant with my first baby and I was soon to be married. Now my third baby is due in just 5 short months and my oldest is 3. Its crazy where life takes us, on this journey, on this path and we have no idea where it's going to take us next.
So much to think about with life being too short and kids growing too fast. It was just yesterday that I found out I was pregnant with my first baby and I was soon to be married. Now my third baby is due in just 5 short months and my oldest is 3. Its crazy where life takes us, on this journey, on this path and we have no idea where it's going to take us next.
Friday, October 15, 2010
Trying to survive...
We try to give our kids everything we can. Sometimes what we can give them just isn't enough. For me, My kids have everything they need and they always will. That not only being because Grant and I work as hard as we can but also from Grandparents and Great Grandparents. And sometimes what we can give them just doesn't seem like enough, in the eyes of the parent anyway. Kids don't need a million toys, or a big house, or a big bedroom, or a nice vehicle, or anything fancy. Heck Dalyce plays with shoes and containers most of the time and Austin watches a lot of movies and reads books. Grant and I have been looking for a house with 4 bedrooms the last little while because I am determined to give each of my children their own bedroom. This might be delayed a little bit more than expected but it will happen one day I'm sure.
Austin woke up this morning to discover that it was snowing. He yelled "Mommy look it's snowing, now I can go outside and build a snowman right?" Good thing Austin finally got a snow suit last weekend (from grants parents) so that when there is enough snow he can go outside and build a snowman!
Sometimes we take for granted the little things in life that are most important. Money isn't everything, I know we need it to survive but it isn't everything. Sometimes just barely getting by does a family more good than harm. I wouldn't be the person I am today if my parents were rich or had everything handed to them. I was tought to work for everything and be proud of what I've got. I was tought that family is the most important thing you can have. And you can't buy love, especially from your kids!!
Austin woke up this morning to discover that it was snowing. He yelled "Mommy look it's snowing, now I can go outside and build a snowman right?" Good thing Austin finally got a snow suit last weekend (from grants parents) so that when there is enough snow he can go outside and build a snowman!
Sometimes we take for granted the little things in life that are most important. Money isn't everything, I know we need it to survive but it isn't everything. Sometimes just barely getting by does a family more good than harm. I wouldn't be the person I am today if my parents were rich or had everything handed to them. I was tought to work for everything and be proud of what I've got. I was tought that family is the most important thing you can have. And you can't buy love, especially from your kids!!
Thursday, October 7, 2010
My Husband!
I have been extremely fortunate to have Grant as my husband and sometimes I take that for granted (lol...does anyone else find that funny....I have grant and I take him for granted...teehee). Anyway, everytime I get pregnant I get very emotional and I blow things out of proportion and I make things seem way different than they are and I take things the wrong way...and I do this all to Grant. When we get into an argument he always just agrees with me and keeps his opinions to the bare minimum because he knows there is no budge room with me when I'm like this. He has to tell himself that I'm pregnant and I'm not usually like this. Thank goodness he does because I think he would've been long gone if he wasn't so understanding. I got to thinking yesterday that the romance in our relationship has dissappeared and so I was grumpy yesterday. Grant kind of agreed with me but we both said that we have a lot on our plate right now and I'm not the easiest to romance when I'm grumpy all the time. I agreed with him on that aspect. So I woke up this morning and came downstairs with the kids and saw a bunch of paper on the floor...the first one said hi and then there were arrows towards the counter and then another one that said look at the pictures on the camera. The first picture was a piece of paper that said Good Morning, the second said I Love You... and the third was of Grant with a piece of paper stuck to his shirt and his arms out wide and the piece of paper said This much!!! And he also changed my computer screen to heart balloons and he wrote on it that he loves me very much!! I hope hes ok with me posting this but I don't care. I wanted to share this with the world and let him know that I appreciate everything he does for me and the kids.
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